Company

Daniel Scharpenburg
4 min readOct 24, 2021

If, while befriending someone, the three poisons increase,

The activities of study, reflection, and meditation degenerate,

And love and compassion disappear,

Then it is the practice of the bodhisattvas to give up this company.”

-The 37 Practices of a Bodhisattva, verse 4. *

The motivational speaker Jim Rohn said, “You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

I don’t think this is literally true. It doesn’t sound like it’s the product of some sort of scientific study. BUT I do think he’s getting at something important and in line with what we’re studying here. Who you spend time with has an impact on you in various ways.

My son told me about an incident in school where some he was hanging out with some friends and one of them got in trouble. So what happened? Everyone got in trouble. He expressed exasperation about getting in trouble when he’s not the one that did anything. That can happen to any of us. The message is pay attention to who you spend time with. Don’t spend time with the people who are getting in trouble all the time, because that will spill over onto you.

Atisha says, “One should give up friends who arouse negative emotions and rely on friends who increase virtue.”

We can choose to devote more of our time to being around people that inspire growth. It’s our job to grow and who we spend time with plays a role. This is not to say that you should cut off…

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Daniel Scharpenburg
Daniel Scharpenburg

Written by Daniel Scharpenburg

Labor Activist. Union Leader, Meditation Teacher

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